By Dr. Wanda Hall-Myers 

As we entered the new year, many of us embarked on the tradition of setting resolutions, whether we refer to them as such or prefer to view them as ongoing paths of self-development. Now that spring is here, it’s only natural to reflect on the progress we’ve made toward these goals. Research indicates that goals of exercising and healthy eating tend to appear near the top of most lists. Research also shows that a significant percentage of individuals tend to abandon their resolutions within the first few months. You are not alone if you find yourself stressing about your progress or feeling anxious about it. 

It is not uncommon to find ourselves entangled in anxious thoughts. The inner dialogue can be overwhelming, with self-doubt and negative affirmations dominating our minds. Do any of these statements sound familiar? 

  • “I TOLD YOU THAT YOU COULDN’T DO IT.” 
  • “YOU’RE NO GOOD AT THIS. YOU’RE A LOSER.” 
  • “I REALLY THOUGHT THIS TIME WOULD BE DIFFERENT, BUT I GUESS NOT.” 
  • “YOU CAN’T CHANGE. IT JUST DOESN’T WORK FOR YOU.” 
  • “JUST GIVE UP. FORGET ABOUT IT.” 

These thoughts plague many of us from time to time, whether it is related to a personal goal of exercising more consistently, eating healthier, or reducing stress in our lives. If you are spending valuable time worrying about your resolutions or goals, questioning your abilities, or fearing the judgment of others, you are likely hindering your progress. 

It’s easy to become ensnared in negative thoughts, often leading to procrastination and a sense of paralysis. Consider what you are missing out on by succumbing to these thoughts. Focused attention on what matters most, the joy of the journey, and the beauty of the present moment are often casualties of overthinking. 

There are practical strategies to help you start addressing these thoughts and break free from their grip. To foster a healthier mindset and make strides toward your health and wellness goals, consider these practical strategies: 

Mindful Self-Reflection: Pay attention to how your thoughts influence your mood, physical sensations, and behaviors. Take moments throughout the day to check in with yourself. Realize that you can take action towards your goals even as the negative thoughts remain. 

Grounding Techniques: Engage in simple exercises like mindful breathing or sensory awareness to anchor yourself in the present moment instead of becoming hooked or controlled by your negative thoughts. These techniques help move negative thoughts to the background by giving them less of your attention. 

By taking these small yet impactful steps, you can begin the process of separating from unhelpful thoughts, enhancing your focus, and making strides toward your resolutions and goals. If you find yourself needing additional support, contact Hall-Myers Consulting, LLC for personalized change coaching. Remember, it’s never too late to realign with your goals and pave the way for a more fulfilling journey of better health and wellness. 

Dr. Wanda Hall-Myers is a licensed psychologist and owner of Hall-Myers Consulting, LLC. She provides consultation and coaching to help manage and sustain change while prioritizing mental wellness. For more information, call 901.308.6878 or visit Change.hallmyersconsultating.com.